Love Nudge

I love the 5 Languages series. I have read them all and have taught some classes based on them. But the Love Tank meter has a serious flaw—you can’t update your love tank level unless you change the percentage. My wife and I have been in a new and incredible season of our love life together. When I first opened the app my love tank was 100% full and hasn’t diminished in the seven days since. I would love to be able to update the app do my amazing and wonderful wife could know that she has kept my love tank at overflowing for so many days in a row, but the only way I can accomplish an update would be to artificially lower the number from 100% and that would likely crush her. She has always had such a hard time speaking my love language(s) but lately she has been doing such an incredible job and I can’t use this one possible method to encourage her to keep pressing forward. She deserves the kudos and I really want her to gain the confidence she deserves from knowing my love tank has remained at an overflowing state for so many days in a row.

I really love the potential of this app, especially because my husband and I spend time apart because of our work, and this app helps me connect with him by reminding me to check in and make sure he feels thought of and appreciated. I would really like it if there were a “randomize” feature that could set up a random batch of goals for the week, month, or even year ahead. I can’t always follow up on a planned and pre-scheduled nudge, and I don’t always have time to comb through things as minute as “touch his knee while driving” and schedule them, but a random notification about something I could do that day, week, month, or year would be a nice reminder that I reach out while keeping things spontaneous and a little more diverse. Thoughts, devs?

My wife and I had some drastic schedule changes in the last couple months that had us both running on empty. This app gave us a reminder of what we know, and a simple but effective way to prompt one another on how to get back up to full. After two days of using the app my wife and I are both filled up. Also, I like that the goals can be given a frequency to remind me to do the things that she needs instead of dwelling on the things I want. I give the app 3 stars because it doesn’t seem very sticky. There’s room to turn this into something that’s life changing rather than just helpful. I’d like to see more suggestions that could help us get new ideas when we feel stuck. Another thing that could help is adding quiz questions for one another to help us better learn each other’s love languages. My final thought is it may be interesting to have reports on when the Love tank is most likely to be empty. For example - tracking the hour updated and the date could show if the morning or evening is when we should be more proactive.

Fantastic idea! Love the idea behind it. The stats tracking are great! My current biggest problem is that I cannot get the app to mark completed goals, nor can I find tutorials or troubleshooting resources to determine if I’m missing something obvious! So the stats and tracking are currently useless to me! For even greater useability, I’d love to see a version that isn’t solely focused on a romantic relationship. I’d love for it to have the option to share and track with multiple people- parents, children, friends. A++++ would be a profile to track your relationship with God! Please let me know if you have any resources to help make this useful for me! I’ve spent over 20 minutes trying to figure out how to mark goals complete- it’s either broken or so unintuitive as to lose a huge number of potential users!

My husband and I just got started using this, and it’s a helpful tool for me to remember to give my personal time to him (he’s quality time, I’m acts of service). However, we both wish we could add personal goals/wish list to share with each other, instead of the goals just being centered on the other person. That’s definitely important, but being able to share your needs in writing with your partner can be really helpful for those that need things in writing. They can then add those things to their goal list. I know you could just talk about them and set them, but if a relationship is having communication issues that might not happen. Just a suggestion from someone who isn’t always good at asking for what she needs!